Tuesday, September 24, 2013

Daydreams Come True!

Ever since I can remember, daydreaming has been part of who I am. I still recall, when I was fourteen years old, my mom caught me making out with my pillow. She gave me the most perplexed look imaginable, and asked (truly puzzled), “What are you doing?” She got a lot of “uhs” and “ums” as I tried to convince her how wonderful the new detergent smelled. To this day, I hope she never guessed that I was picturing a muscular hottie as I clutched that pillow.

But daydreams like this are the least notable among the literally thousands I’ve ever had.  I daydream ALL the time. Every day without fail! And when I say that many of my daydreams have shaped my life into what it is, I assure you, it’s no exaggeration. So after many years of successful daydreaming, the process has become an indispensable tool to set and attain my goals.

Now, I must clarify, when I say daydreaming I don’t mean the random thoughts that pop into everyone’s mind when stuck in traffic.

"Wow, look at that billboard. Powerball’s up to $53 million. Man, all the things I could do with that. Oooh, maybe I’ll buy a car like that one. Umph, I sure wouldn’t give a red cent to Uncle Bob. I wonder if he still sells dope. I can’t believe I actually bought some from him…"

No, that’s not what I’m talking about. Certainly, I still have random daydreams. I’m sure our minds wander in this fashion for a reason (i.e. to stay sane.) What I’m talking about is something more elaborate—something that, through the years, I’ve learned has power, something I like to call Focused Daydreaming and others—especially those in sports—may call visualization.
Focused Daydreaming is a detailed and driven exercise in which I like to play-act my deepest wishes. These daydreams are staged and acted out with painstaking accuracy. They have imaginary characters with names, people I hold conversations with, people who call me on my imaginary finger-phone and give me good news. They take place on the streets of cities I want to visit where I talk in languages I don’t even know. And in the end of each daydream, I get exactly what I want, though not until I’ve imagined all the steps needed to take me there.
You might think this is crazy, and maybe it is, but I tell you, many of my focused daydreams have actually come true.
When I was fifteen years old, I daydreamed of learning a foreign language. The whole idea was exciting to me. I thought it would be so cool to be able to travel and meet other people who were different from me. I imagined what it would take to learn a foreign language: teachers, classmates, even exams. I listened to foreign music—with lyrics that made no sense at all—and sang along, pretending I understood every single word. I had imaginary foreign friends who were awesome-cool and invited me to do fun things with them. In short, I psyched myself up so much that when the opportunity presented itself to enroll in a language school, I was primed and ready to take it. The opportunity didn’t pass me by as it would have if I hadn’t been ready.  I recognized it for what it was immediately, and I took it. No hesitation. Eighteen months later, I was fluent in another language.
Then there was that crazy period during high school when I daydreamed about going to college overseas. I imagined the awesome campus, the large auditorium classes, the dorms, the graduation, and the ear-splitting cries of students on game day. Everything! I swear I could practically smell all the yummy, tailgating food. Yep, once more I was psyched over the prospect. So I maintained good grades and kept practicing said foreign language. When destiny came knocking at my door, I was ready. To be honest, by that point, I was sure I had earned it. Hell, I even deserved it.
It is no surprise, that with all this daydreaming practice, I eventually turned to writing. I guess it’s just natural. I have to put all that imagination to good use, don’t you think? J So, it’s in this area where—of late—my daydreams have concentrated. Now, you can probably imagine how my daydreams go in that department.  It’s pretty much like this: I write an awesome book, I get an agent, I find a publisher, I sell millions, and I walk the red carpet! The works!
I’m not so crazy to think all of this will come true, however I know that if the opportunity parades itself in front of me, I will be more than ready to take it by the horns and wrestle it to the ground. I’m honing my skills; I’m learning the ropes; I’m connecting with my readers; I’m loving every minute of it! And—no doubt—I’m ready.
You may not think any of these accomplishments amount to much, but maybe you’ll think differently when you know that I was born in Tegucigalpa, Honduras to loving, hard-working parents. I grew up in a 600 sq. ft. house, rode three buses to get to school, and counted, among my few prized possessions, a used Walkman (Man, I loved that thing!) and a pair of hand-me-down Kangaroo tennis shoes. My mother tongue is Spanish and remained the primary one until I was twenty. I earned a scholarship to go to language school when I was fifteen, and after two years of college in Honduras, I earned a Fulbright scholarship for entry into Louisiana State University where I graduated with honors. I taught myself how to write in English and published my debut novel this year. 
There is no doubt in my mind that daydreams played a huge part in letting me accomplish all of this, and they will continue to do so. To borrow from Michael Jordan: “You have to expect things of yourself before you can do them.”
Daydreaming is my way of setting goals, plus it is fun. What is yours?
And, yes, I did marry a muscular hottie :)

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Hey, everyone who participates and leaves a comment will be entered in 2 awesome giveaways. One for a Kindle Fire HD 7" Tablet which will be given away on September 30th among all those who participate.

Another for a eCopy of my New Adult contemporary novel “The GuysAre Props Club” and a $10 Amazon Gift Card which I will give away on September 28th. So don’t miss the chance to tell me about your daydreams ;) You can leave your twitter account or email address, and I'll contact you if you win!

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Rita said...

When I was young I used to daydream a lot. Nowadays my daydreams are more like wishes.


Ingrid Seymour said...

Ah yes, winning the lottery is a favorite of mine :)

Ingrid Seymour said...

Hi Rita! Thanks for stopping by. I call my daydreams because they are crazy, but they really are a reflection of my wishes.

Shadow said...

Hi! Wonderful story! I agree, daydreaming can take you places and help you achieve! :) I love your story! Your story reminded me of my favorite quote: Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars to change the world.~ Harriet Tubman
Thanks for sharing! Had funny reading it! And congrats on your release! Best wishes and much success! <3

Louisa Cornell said...

What a great post, Ingrid! And what a great way to inspire yourself to be who you were really meant to be.

Ingrid Seymour said...

Thank you, Shadow! That is a great quote!!

Ingrid Seymour said...

Thank you, Louisa. I'm a work in progress ;)

Naima Simone said...

LOL!! Ingrid, I almost didn't get past the making out with your pillow! Snicker! I'm not admitting I did it, too. No way. Nope...

Like you, I'm a daydreamer. It's how my books start. Every one of them. I might work the details out on paper, but the idea? Formed in my daydreams.

Awesome post, Ingrid! And you have such an amazing story! Um, by the way...that red carpet thing? Yeah, me, too... LOL!!

Anonymous said...

I am sooo excited for the luncheon and to learn about new authors.

I am daydreaming about the new books I'll be reading from them!

Count me in!

Carol Bibb

Ingrid Seymour said...

Naima, we'll walk it :)

Ingrid Seymour said...

Thank you, Carol. Look forward to meeting you there. And Yes! There'll be plenty of books!

Angela N. Blount (RedPeril) said...

Well that's pretty darn inspiring, Ingrid! ^_^

But daydreaming, even focused, is nothing without the guts to jump into the unknown. Actualizing dreams comes at a cost, and that's what I find most admirable about your journey. You were brave enough to step out of the safe and comfortable, count the cost, and jump.

I'm glad you did. :)

~Angela Blount
redperil (at) gmail (dot) com

Mel White said...

I used to daydream about going to college overseas too.

Ingrid Seymour said...

Thanks, Angela! I'd pay it all over again ;)

Ingrid Seymour said...

Mel, it is an amazing experience to be immersed in another culture. Truly life changing.

Ashfa said...

Fantastic post- loved it!
Right now, I'm daydreaming about all the books I can read if I ever get time. :)

Tawnya Peltonen said...

I've never really had daydreams. I've hoped for things I'd like to have in my life, but nothing really "crazy" by normal standards. I'm really pretty boring lol.


Anonymous said...

Very well said. Daydreams are what let you get through the day sometimes when reality is just too much.

Ingrid Seymour said...

Ashfa, that is one my favorite things to do. READ!!!!! :)

Ingrid Seymour said...

Tawnya, thanks for visiting!

Ingrid Seymour said...

The winner to my $10 amazon gift card and an eBook copy of "The Guys Are Props Club" is Ashfa! Congratulations! :)