This has been a busy summer for me. It has been more than ten weekends since I've had an "off" weekend. What I mean by off is no family get-togethers or writer functions. Hopefully next weekend I will be able to write all weekend without having to go somewhere. That is besides the grocery store.
Anyway, the other day I was thinking about how many times I've sat next to someone at a table during a conference or workshop and a person on one side or both will turn their backs to me. They want to talk to their friend and no one else. They'll glance at you and quickly decide you're no one important.
Well, all I can say is be careful if you do that. Several years ago, a woman sat next to me at a conference who looked like any regular overweight middle age writer (like me). Nothing special looking (like me). At first, she was a little quiet, but a new friend (made at that conference) and I started talking to her. Turned out she was Kate Duffy. Yes. The late and great, famous Kensington editor who helped romance novels to become what they are today. Click on her name to find out about her if you don't already know.
She was wonderful, friendly and oh, so kind. I had so wanted to work with her. (Though I have to say I love working with my Avon Impulse editor. She's wonderful, kind and smart. Yes. I'm a little bias. She did pick me out of the slush pile.) Later I got a chance for an appointment with her (someone hadn't shown up...crazy person) and Kate asked for a full. She rejected it three weeks after I sent it.
So next time you sit next to someone at a writers' function, be nice, friendly. It may pay off. They may even be someone important or someone you will later be happy to say you know personally or you might just make a new friend. We all can use as many friends as we can get in life.
Now, who were you surprised to sit by at a gathering? A new friend, a famous person, or just someone very interesting?