Thursday, June 16, 2011

Going From Major Stab Wound To Minor Bruising by Christy Reece

Christy wrote this post 2/10/07. If only she had known she would get the call that year. Encouraging, isn't it? 

Recently, I've noticed that rejections have started hurting less and that worried me a little. What did that mean? Was my writing career meaning less to me? Did I not want to be a published author as much as I had before? Had I come to the end of hope? I even stopped wanting to eat chocolate after each one. Oh no!

Was it time to end the dream?

It didn't take me long to answer back with a resounding NO! Yes, I still love to write and my career still means the world to me. Yes, I still want to be a published, actually a multi-published author. And there is still plenty of hope. Oh, and I still love chocolate.

So why does it hurt less? Why did what used to feel like a stab to my heart now only result in minor bruising? One word...Growth. I've grown up these past few years and my skin...while not rhinoceros thick...is no longer as fragile as it once was. I've been writing long enough and experienced enough rejection, that I'm no longer shocked when it happens.

My first rejections came as a shock...did yours? I just assumed everyone would immediately see what a literary genius I am. Uh, nope...as far as I know, no one has.

Now, when I submit, I don't necessarily expect rejection, but I'm no longer floored when it happens. Personal taste, the market, my writing style, the storyline and a whole host of other things can bring a rejection. That took me a while to understand, but realizing that, it's become much easier.

Will my next rejection hurt? Of course it will. I'm still human. However, I'll go through my little grieving process, which may or may not include chocolate. Then I'll carry on. Why? Because it's what I do...it's what I am.

How about you? Are rejections, whether you're published or not, easier than they used to be?

2 comments:

Louisa Cornell said...

I hadn't really thought about it, but you're right, Christy. In the last four or so years I have received LOTS of rejections. I have them all printed in a notebook. (No I'm not masochisitic!) I have them because I see a pattern in them.

Each year the rejections have gotten less hurtful, but also they are more nit picky, if that makes sense. The early rejections I received were basically "We don't like anything about your book." or they were just generic blanket rejections.

My most recent rejections have been of the "SO close, but not quite" variety. Maybe I am a "Pollyanna," but I read these as "You're almost there." These rejections have been longer, more detailed. They have listed all of the things they LIKED or LOVED about the book and then the things they didn't like. The things they didn't like are getting shorter and shorter. I see that as a good thing.

I had an advantage going into this writing gig. As a singer I got rejections for years. You build up a tolerance after a while.

So, while the first felt like I was being flayed alive, these days I take the body blow and keep on writing.

haleywhitehall said...

I found your blog through Margie Lawson. I'm so glad I did. I love all the posts I've read. It makes since that rejection letters would get less hurtful as your writing skill improves. More detail rejections letters are what every author wants if they have to get a rejection that is. That is what I have to look forward to in the future.