Getting past a "no" isn't easy, even if it is a very positive "no."
"No" just plain sucks.
But in order to write, one must get past it. How do I get past a "no?" Here are my techniques (not in particular order, except for the first two):
1-I call my CPs and dissect the letter. They counsel me and say they're sorry, but then admonish me to send out more queries and hook an agent with this book.
2-I throw a wonderful Personal Pity Party. Wine, songs and FB comments are flowing all night.
3-I get up the next day and force myself to start again. A to-do list is a wonderful thing for me.
4-I polish my first GH entry and get it ready to send off to the RWA Offices
5-I force myself to research agents on line via the RWA website and their websites. I write a blog about how much I despise this type of work. At last, you all know my achilles heel: I loathe administrative work and I am horrible about worrying about the formatting and so forth of each query letter and submission. Blah--
6-After I yank the nails out of my eyeballs, I go to Kinkos and copy my MS for the GH entry. I also run boring errands. They remind me that I'd like to be super wealthy one day and hire someone to do all this stuff (another thing I loathe to do is waiting in lines).
7-I query the agents via email and record them in my PRO binder query grid.
8-I make a writing plan for my next GH revision.
9-I clean the house top to bottom, warn the family I will be writing A LOT during the next 6 weeks, and I allow myself to breath and enjoy this final writing free weekend.
10-I tell myself I am glad I got the rejection. It was a good one, and it solidified for me that I have a strong voice. I need time to hone this voice of mine, time to keep writing at my pace, and time to build my back list so when I get that elusive call from an agent/publisher, I am ready to roll.
After all this, I am ready to return to my writing cave. I am eager to start my revision. I am anxious to get the work done. And I can't wait to start!
I love being a writer.
How do you move past the "no?"