I know that love scenes vary depending on the type of story. Obviously, an erotic romance is going to have LOTS of love scenes. A romantic suspense might have less because you don't have a lot of time for sex while running from a killer. A good old homespun yarn about a small town school marm and the local sheriff might not focus too much on the love scene either. Not that I know this for sure, not being the sort of reader who typically reads the small town stories. :)
It also depends, at least in category, which line you write for. Blaze will have a high level of sensuality, of course. Desire seems to indicate in the title of the line that you can have a lot of sensuality. Romance, edited out of the UK, closes the bedroom door.
My line, Modern/Presents, has a wide range of sensuality levels. My editor has never, ever told me to tone it down. Heck, I even got away with what I considered a taboo naughty word in my last accepted manuscript. I thought: no way will this fly. This is a Blaze word, not a Presents word. (You'll have to read CAVELLI'S LOST HEIR to find out the word! It's out in the UK in December, but I still don't have a North American date yet.)
As you can guess by this post, I am currently writing the love scene for my 3rd Presents. And it's gotten quite long. I'm shocked, actually, by the pages and pages of sensuality here. I think it's necessary, though. I have two people who are mortal enemies from birth, a situation in which they might not make it out alive, and the heroine is a virgin. Yeah, takes time to resolve all that.
I also spend a lot of time worrying over every word choice and every nuance. Love scenes should be easy to write, and they kind of are because you know what MUST happen, but they are also tough for me because I don't want to say the same thing the same way, and I want to show beyond a doubt the growth of these characters as they engage in the most intimate of acts. It's not simply a Tab A Slot B performance. (No romance novel really is, is it?)
I don't do anything special when writing these scenes. I don't light candles or play music or any of that. (Some people do, I hear.) I just sit and write and agonize and surf the web and return to the WIP and type some more, etc.
What about you? Do you do anything special when it's time to write that scene? If you write erotica, I want to know how you can keep in the moment for each scene. I love the love scene, but I find it emotionally draining too. Because the characters' emotions are at their most vulnerable then. How do you keep it fresh and original? And if you don't write love scenes, if you write sweet, how do you convey all that tension and angst and how do you resolve it without the sexual release?