Monday, February 09, 2009


I realized as I wrote my blog, that I have been out of the loop for too long. I can withdraw so completely that I don't even surface for days. Specifically, I don't contact friends, I just do what needs to be done in my immediate area.

Still, I am trying to remain connected.

So at the behest of a good friend, I took the plunge and joined Facebook in the wee hours of Saturday. I dragged my feet to start this, because I thought it was unnecessary work. But, I need to be able to connect, to communicate with others and not be the hermit I naturally fall into.

Now for those of you with that innate cyber sense, setting up a Facebook page is easy, and user friendly. For me, it’s been frustrating. I've tried to add friends (I mean, that is my purpose, right?) and what have I done? I've invited people three times, while deleting others, I've skipped people, and honestly....I'm not sure what I've done. So, there is an invite out there waiting for you...I just have to figure out the best way to get it to you. Plus, throw in some guilt--I don't want anyone to feel obligated to join my page--add all that and I am in a dither.

Are you laughing at me yet? Because I think my ineptitude is hilarious.

Worse, every time I am on Facebook, and I lurk around, my Internet connection gets cut off (maybe its trying to tell me something?).

The thing is, it is also another distraction. I will have to be careful how I manage it. Like with everything in my life everything is going to have be prioritized.

How are you remaining connected while working, writing, and just making it through your day?
Do you think Facebook is a good thing or bad?


Angel said...

Yep, just got my Facebook pages set up not too long ago... and feel guilty because I hardly remember to update them, while I have friends who are on there constantly.

I just don't have the time for it. Every 3 to 4 days, I'll get on and mention what I'm doing, but I'd rather write a blog where I can be in depth and explain, rather than just a one liner. Maybe I'm just not Facebook material...

BTW, you aren't the only hermit in the bunch. Many of us writers have that natural tendency. The key is surfacing occassionally. :)


JoAnn said...

Facebook is definitely a double-edged sword. Yes, it can be a time-consuming distraction. But I've reconnected with long-lost relatives and old friends since I joined, and that's wonderful.

I do like the fact that when someone posts something on my wall or sends me a message, I get a notice in my e-mail.

Perhaps the old "Moderation in all things" applies here!

Christine said...

I got my FB when I moved to AL. I use it to stay connected with my friends back in VA, Canada, TX, and the Netherlands. The only problem with it is that sometimes the little status comments can get taken out of context and people don't "get it." I also found it to be a bit of a strange communication tool where everyone can read your thoughts and why do we really care? Like did my friend in VA really have to put her every reaction to Obama's speech on FB as her status comments?? Or do I really care that so and so is going to the grocery?? I don't know. So I stopped doing the status updates on my own site. I might do it occasionally but I've noticed that then people I care about actually real interest in what I am up to on my wall.

I like it as a way to stay connected with my daughter and her friends and my long distance friends and relatives, but then there are some relatives one would rather not have to deal with and what do you do when they try to friend you? I ended up accepting them, but setting privacy settings very strictly.

Sorry to be so long winded!

M.V.Freeman said...

I'm with you, I may have to just ck it every few days. Just so I can set limits. LOL

And here's to surfacing occasionally! :)

M.V.Freeman said...

I agree, it is a double edged sword, but it is nice to be able to connect with others you've lost contact with.

I say that, but I am dragging my feet...oh the anti-social aspect of me fights this...LOL

Yes and moderation! :)

M.V.Freeman said...

I'm with you, I will set limits on what I say or do.

Besides who really wants to know the minute details of my life, heck there are times I don't want to know...LOL


Sherry Werth said...

MV, I'm laughing! But it's not at's with you! That Facebook thing needs to come with an instruction manual. Lordy, I've probably deleted more stuff than I've accepted but it was only because I didn't have a clue what I was doing. So I will apologize now for any rejections I may have sent. One of these days I'll figure the FB thing out. Or not. :D

Carla Swafford said...

I'm on Facebook too. Donna Wright got me on there a couple years ago. It wasn't until last year a really did anything with it, but I pretty much ignore it. Same with MySpace and Twitter.

Talk about wasting time, Twitter is it. Maybe when I'm published and my fans want to now more, I'll post more often there; otherwise, I get on there once a month.

To me, those places are saving my name for when I'm published and little more than that. :-) I rather be writing a book. Or reading one.

M.V.Freeman said...

I am so glad you feel my pain! I am pretty much at its mercy!

LOL, ah well.

M.V.Freeman said...


I know that initially I'll lurk around on it for a few...but basically, I am hoping I can keep in touch with a friend who is far away (Phone calls get expensive) and emails are hard.

But, like you said, now you are primed and ready for publication! :)

Christy Reece said...

Facebook...My new guilty pleasure! I've been on for about a year and admit I am quite addicted. I think it's a great networking tool and it's free...can't get much better than that.

I love connecting with other authors. I'm also hoping to get some readers from being on it. Fingers crossed! Though I'm using it mostly for networking, I do get a kick out of the ecletic friends I've added. Status reports? Yeah, I usually update at least once a day. Don't think I've put anything controversial in...that's just not me. But it's interesting when you get people from all over the world commenting on your status.

BTW, Mary, I just accepted your friendship on FB. Thanks for the add!

M.V.Freeman said...

Hi Christy,
I am so glad you accepted! :)

It is a neat tool, and I am trying not to be controversial myself. I prefer humor more than anything. Give me a year, and I'll let you know how it goes!

Is there anyone I missed? I'm trying...LOL

(and Christy, I'm with you, I like the eclectic part completely! Isn't it neat the people we know?)


Diane Richmond said...

Okay, I admit it. I don't get it. I have e-mail, a cell phone and any one I care about knows my phone number. What else do I need? Does this mean that I am anti-social? I don't know. I have enough trouble keeping up with everyhting as it is. Maybe I will join the crowd someday. Today I am maxed with what I already have.


Karen Beeching said...

Diane, I'm kind of right there with you. I just don't have the time. At least not now. Maybe some day if I can quit that day job ...

M.V.Freeman said...

I had to laugh, I really did. I can certainly understand it. I have had those moments...Thank you, I needed the smile.

I'd like to say Facebook is not time consuming, it can be.

*Shrugs* We'll see what happens, I promise not to regale everyone about my mishaps...:)

M.V.Freeman said...

The dreaded day job. *Sigh* I agree.

One day.

Until then....I dream

Scott said...

ing connected is really important. Your network of contacts and friends can offer a lifeline in so many ways.

I run a website called:
and with nearly no advertising we have grown the site to include members from 8 countries worldwide. We accomplished this using Facebook among others in our network of contacts.

- Scott